This past week was a great week in my coaching business. While you might be expecting me to say that I signed a bunch of new clients, you’d be wrong.
You see, for me, a great week in my coaching business, is when my clients teach me.
Yes, I said it.
I learn from my clients, often as much or more than they learn from working with me.
Here are 5 things I have learned from the BEST (Badass, Engaged, Structured, Tenacious) executive and entrepreneurial coaching clients:
They are open to learning.
While most of the people I work with are experts in their respective fields, what I’ve learned from the BEST is, while they are knowledgeable, they are always open to learning more. They remain curious and ask a lot of questions. It is true that good leaders ask great questions.
The BEST read, study, and apply what they have learned. They invest in themselves, their teams, and their organizations through coaching, development programs, conferences, and training. They are also open to learning from others, regardless of the person’s level of leadership.
I believe listening is one of the biggest challenges most people have.
It seems, at times, we listen to be heard, more than we listen to understand. The BEST intentionally listen even when it is hard. They ask good (open-ended) questions and then sit back and listen.
Many of the BEST intentionally slow themselves and their minds down to be able to absorb what their ears are hearing. You would be surprised what happens when you really listen. Don’t believe me? Ask some of the BEST.
They are coachable.
You might be surprised to know that many people who hire coaches are not really coachable. Some hire a coach to get affirmation or to just keep up with the Joneses.
The BEST show up. They are open to the exercises, embrace the questions, engage in the process, and do the homework (yes, I give homework all the time); and they grow.
They do the work.
It takes effort and a great work ethic to engage successfully with me. I challenge my clients and their teams, not only in their actions, but also in their thoughts.
The BEST rise to this.
They do what they say they will try, when they said they will try it, and how we agreed they would try it. The BEST hustle to not only get the return on the investment, but to get what they really want.
The BEST lead; they don’t boss – and, yes, there is a difference. Check out my book, Boss or Leader, if you want to learn more about this.
The BEST understand that leadership is not just about directing subordinates. They know, respect, and understand that leading is not only vertical in the down direction. They understand the need to master leading up and leading across, as well.
Are you, as a leader, learning from the BEST? Engaging these five practices can have a powerful impact in your success.
Ask yourself these five questions regularly to stay on your BEST path to success.
- Am I open to learning?
- Do I listen in order to understand?
- Am I coachable?
- Am I willing to do the work it takes to succeed?
- Am I a boss or a leader?
If I can be of help to you and your team, contact me to discuss the possibilities.
Dave Ferguson is “The Leaders’ Coach”, an internationally recognized executive leadership coach, speaker, facilitator, and author. Are you interested in talking to Dave about coaching or having Dave speak to inspire and motivate your team? “ASK COACH DAVE” at 704-907-0171 or at Dave@AskCoachDave.com.